Developmental Milestones for 6-8 Year Olds

Emotional/Social Changes

Children in this age group might:

• Show more independence from parents and family
• Start to think about the future
• Understand more about his or her place in the world
• Pay more attention to friendships and teamwork
• Want to be liked and accepted by friends

Thinking and Learning

Children in this age group might:

• Show rapid development of mental skills
• Learn better ways to describe experiences and talk about thoughts and feelings
• Be less focused on themselves and show more concern for others

When a Neuropsychological Evaluation or Consultation may be appropriate:

• Your child’s teacher raises concern about confidence, learning, attention, or behavior
• Your child struggles to sound out words when reading
• Your child appears frustrated by the process of learning
• Your child appears anxious when going to school
• Your child spends too much time completing homework
• Your child has not made a friend
• Your child’s self-confidence towards learning appears eroded
• Your child’s medical team has raised concern about how his past history may impact learning
• Your child’s behavior is radically different at home than in school

Positive Parenting Tips

Following are some things you, as a parent, can do to help your child during this time:

• Show affection for your child. Recognize her accomplishments.
• Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—ask him to help with household tasks, such as setting the table.
• Talk with your child about school, friends, and things she looks forward to in the future.
• Talk with your child about respecting others. Encourage him to help people in need.
• Help your child set her own achievable goals—she’ll learn to take pride in herself and rely less on approval or reward from others.
• Help your child learn patience by letting others go first or by finishing a task before going out to play. Encourage him to think about possible consequences before acting.
• Make clear rules and stick to them, such as how long your child can watch TV or when she has to go to bed. Be clear about what behavior is okay and what is not okay.
• Do fun things together as a family, such as playing games, reading, and going to events in your community.
• Get involved with your child’s school. Meet the teachers and staff and get to understand their learning goals and how you and the school can work together to help your child do well.
• Continue reading to your child. As your child learns to read, take turns reading to each other.
• Use discipline to guide and protect your child, rather than punishment to make him feel bad about himself. Follow up any discussion about what not to do with a discussion of what to do instead.
• Praise your child for good behavior. It’s best to focus praise more on what your child does (“you worked hard to figure this out”) than on traits she can’t change (“you are smart”).
• Support your child in taking on new challenges. Encourage her to solve problems, such as a disagreement with another child, on her own.
• Encourage your child to join school and community groups, such as a team sports, or to take advantage of volunteer opportunities.